In the words of Brene Brown – researcher, author, TED Talk-er –
A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. (source)
I think we as women look for this a lot. It begins as teenagers, as we search for friendships and people who will accept us – trying to be cool, or hipster, or aloof, or whatever group we want so badly to fit with.
And it continues into adulthood, many times. If we’re single, we seek out other single ladies to be friends with. If we’re married without kids, or a new mom, or a mom with preschoolers…. in every season, we as women are inclined to belong to a group that “gets us.”
Whether we admit it or not, we all want to belong. We all want to be accepted by someone. We need to know that we belong to a family, a group, a tribe… that we are part of something bigger and better than ourselves, and unconditionally accepted in that place.