Submission isn’t a word we love, is it? 

Submission is hard. 

Especially, I imagine, for those ladies who are the independent, strong-personality type. That’s not really me, but my guess is, if that’s you, the idea of letting your man lead isn’t your favorite.

Some people get really offended by this idea, and go to great lengths to try to prove that it’s not in the Bible. 

The truth: it is in the Bible. But sister, let me assure you: it’s written in the Word of God with love and care for you at its center. Not to abuse you. Not to squelch you. Not to deny you utilizing your gifts and passions. But to honor and protect you.

Take a look at these Scriptures and hear how your Heavenly Father has set this order in place for your good:

“But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.” 1 Corinthians 11:3

“For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is head of the church, His own body, and is Himself its Savior.” Ephesians 5:23

“Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.” Colossians 3:18-19

As a man submits to Christ as his head, he leads his wife and family from this position, and it is a good thing. And I think, as women, there is something inside us that wants this. As much a leader and a go-getter as you may be, there’s still something that seems natural, right, and comforting about your man stepping up and taking the lead. 

Check out this quote from a Huffington Post article: 

Strong, confident women who advocate for themselves all day in the world often find that they want the men in their lives to be giving. They want the door held open for them, a shared umbrella, an invitation to a date planned and paid for by the man in their lives. (source)

I receive daily prayers in my email from The Unveiled Wife, focusing on various areas of marriage. Today’s prayer “happened” to be on this very subject. I’d like to share it here in closing:

Dear God, please transform my heart. Help me be confident in my husband’s ability to lead. Help me support him in his role as my husband. I pray that he would walk in humility and confidence as a leader. Show me how to affirm him instead of nag him. Help me to let go of the frustrations that arise when he does things different than I would have done them. Help me to surrender my selfishness, help me to swallow my pride. I pray that our marriage glorifies You, and that as a wife, I can support my husband and let him lead. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

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